Is it okay to snoop on your partner?

So in-between work sometime last week, I visited Linda ikeji’s blog and came across this headline👇

€95,000 = 47million naira

I don’t know the authenticity of this news but after I read it through, I saw all reasons to give thanks  to the one God who never made me a Saudis. I also praised his Holy name for his wisdom and guidance as I had never for once in my entire life considered migrating to Saudi Arabia. I had never considered it a destination for honeymoon, sugarmoon, milo-moon, milk-moon or any other moon that has to do with myself,  my man and his phone b/cos y’all know what? I am an unrepentant badass snoop, and judging from that law, I’d spend all my life in jail with hard labour.  hard labour bcoz if you summed up my past life with my present life, it wouldn’t even be equal to 2million not to talk of 47million naira. The only time I saw such huge amounts of money was in a dream I had  in the year 2001. So now y’all know where I’m coming from right? 

Please, don’t come here to judge me and question my self confidence as a woman or list my insecurities or give me a sermon on the topic, ‘snooping can ruin your relationship’. I mean, why should my relationship get ruined becoz I snooped on my partner or he snooped on me? are we not being oblivious to the fact  that my relationship got ruined not bcoz I snooped but bcoz in the process of snooping, I found out my man was the updated version of Cristiano Ronaldo who was solely dribbling 99 girls on whatsapp, 66 women on facebook and scoring free penalty with 45 slay queens on Instagram? if this was the case, then would it be reasonable to blame the failure of my relationship on my snooping or on his cheating ass? Would it be better if I didn’t find out? Would it be better if I had let myself be blinded by the non-existant love of a man whose only ambition on earth is to outdo king Solomon? 

Some general overseers in relationship matters would say the reason you are snooping on your partner is bcoz you do not trust them and a relationship without trust is bound to fail but then,  how can trust sprout if I can’t invade your privacy and find you blameless? The person you are allowing access to your privacy is not a stranger. That person is not your wicked step-mother, your colleague at work or that mad woman or madman down your street. The person we are talking about here is your partner! Your spouse! You share bed with that person . You go down on that person. You both share problems, ideas, thoughts. You both also share tooth brush, pants, saliva and other things i’m not interested in talking about on here, So what exactly is the big deal in them going through your phone? Ain’t you both suppose to be one? oh, so you can be one in every other thing but when it comes to your phone you want to 2? You want to build a bridge and draw boundaries? really, what type of milk did you drink in your childhood? goat milk? 

Okay, before you think I am blabbering, I will go ahead to list all the Pros and cons of snooping that I know of,  and you are free to correct me if you think i’m illogical. Now to the Pros; 

  • Snooping helps you discover some underlying truth about your partner. In cases where his side job is kidnapping but he never told you and then you on his whatsapp one evening, and you come across his chat with a gang member who hit him up like ‘ Evans, now that we have kidnapped Otedola, should our next target be Dangote ? 😱
  • It helps you to effortlessly dodge a bullet. In cases where you go through her phone, only to find out she’s an all time bed-hopper who isn’t repenting soon cos she texted one Alhaji Musa to tell him she would  come visit him in Abuja during the weekend even though she had lied to you, saying she wanted to go see her sick uncle in the village that weekend. Now you know her true colors. You know you deserve better. You know you’v dodged that bullet and you ain’t gon’ beat yourself up about it cos you know you loved her ceaselessly even though you know her butts are flat as pancakes.  
  • It helps to build more trust in your relationship. In cases where he is acting suspicious and then you go through his phone but found nothing, other than his chat with his pastor and the main topic of their discussion was you. How much blessings you have been to him and how he couldn’t  wait  to finally say ‘I do’ to you. After reading that chat, you know your love and trust level for him automatically  bottles up  from 60litres to 360litres.
  • It reduces your chances of contracting STDs. In cases where you go through his phone and realized he had hooked up with prostitute that night before coming home to you. You know you ain’t giving him any doggy that night and In fact,  You’r  gon’ lock up that v*gin* and will only unlock it after; (1) taking him to the hospital to have a proper test done on his PS and (2)  After he must have used algebra and almighty formula to explain why he cheated in the first place.

    Cons;

    • Your 7/8/10years relationship abruptly ends. In cases you find out he/she is really cheating and you don’t know the best way to handle it so everything becomes messy and one person is asking for space and then silent treatments for weeks and boom the next time you call him/her, they’re asking ‘who’s this please‘?  
    • You get hurt. Can’t stop crying for days, weeks, months,years and decades and then your followers on social media starts to unfollow you bcoz they are tired of your daily ‘men are scum’ rants.
    • I don’t know. I guess it’s finished. No more cons people! no more cons! 

     Having said all these, I’d like to give a shout-out to my fellow snoopers. You guys are not alone. I have been with y’all before Jesus turned that water into wine, and maybe, just Maybe before rapture takes place we’d change right? Maybe not!  To you dear readers, what is your take on snooping? do you think it’s okay to snoop or get snooped on by your partner? Are you for or  against it?  Has snooping ever marred your relationship or did it help it grow stronger? Tell us in the comment section! We unapologetic snoopers and non-snoopers want to know! ❤❤

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    31 Comments Add yours

    1. Hey girl, its been so long since I’ve been on your page. I miss reading your posts so Ima enjoy doing that!
      About snooping, I’m not for it cause knowing myself, I get obsessive. I don’t like Obsessive Twali. Lol! It will never be enough, I’ll want to keep looking & looking until I eventually find something that will upset me.

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      1. cliquetalk says:

        Lol True, snooping is equally addictive
        At this point, it’l take the grace of God and enough holy communion for me to stop snooping.
        Nice reading from you again ..im running off to your blog soon❤

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        1. Hehe I’m sure you will be juuuust fine! ❤ 🙂

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    2. Sim says:

      I am an unrepentant snooper😂😂.

      After snooping I tell myself I am never snooping again, then I find myself snooping again.
      It reminds me of the time when I gave my life to christ almost every sunday.

      Snooping definitely has it’s pros and cons.

      However, I am willing to take the risk. I strongly believe in mutual snooping.
      It should be called ‘looking’ because it shouldn’t be a problem if you have nothing to hide.
      Infact, it is almost the same as searching his box to see his old and new clothes.

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      1. cliquetalk says:

        😂
        Exactly, it should be called ‘looking! And they have no right to be mad at us for looking. it’s what being in a relationship is all about. You look! I look! we look!

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    3. SOMGOLIBE says:

       “Oh, so you can be one in every other thing but when it comes to your phone you want to 2?” got me ROTFLMAO. I like snooping basically because I love people snooping on my chats… Weird right? Story for another day.

      Meanwhile, I think the Saudis news is fake not like I have any business with the place shaa

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      1. cliquetalk says:

        it’s really weird that you like people snooping on your chats….christ!
        PS: I apologize it took me so long to reply… Nysc dealt with me..
        About where I was posted to… I’m making a post on that..xx

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    4. Susan says:

      I used to snoop a lot and of cos I didn’t find it a problem if he snooped on me but things never went right after snooping. We wanted to snoop some more and after couple of discoveries from snooping. We didn’t work out . I don’t regret it though.

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      1. cliquetalk says:

        Quite sad…
        Well that is one consequence of snooping. I wonder why it is such a terrible thing to snoop anyways… I’m sure you are in a better place.. Xx

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    5. Susan says:

      Its my first time here on this blog.I love your posts.you are really hilarious and you have great contents. Nice work

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      1. cliquetalk says:

        Thanks a lot Susan… Pls keep visiting and subscribe to be notified on my every post. ❤

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        1. Susan says:

          I have done that now. Thanks for writing! #teamcliquetalk

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    6. Such a long post to defend your snooping 😂😂 Well-done
      Meanwhile the Saudi news is fake

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      1. cliquetalk says:

        Dear Deshi. I hope I was able to convince you that snooping is good for hair growth.
        Tanchu president of Saudi Arabia.. 🙌

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    7. Nnamdi says:

      Well, most people who commented are right about snooping, to be a snooper one must be able to bear the heart break, emotional and mental stress that could come with finding out truths.
      Snooping is not bad at all, besides any partner who doesn’t like being snooped at must be hiding skeletons in his/her cupboard. As for me, I won’t snoop on my partner to avoid having cardiac arrest or running mad. This world is too sweet to just come and die because of one person who won’t even care when you are gone..

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      1. cliquetalk says:

        Lol.. I don’t like cardiac arrest too but you see, I won’t trade snooping. If I cannot look through your stuff and not have cardiac arrest , we ain’t meant to be.. This should be a standard for choosing a life partner.

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    8. Bella says:

      Snoopers are the MVPs! 🙌🏾
      I snoop and I don’t have a problem with my partner snooping. Of course, the shock absorber is a must. I can not categorically begin to tell you how snooping has helped me.

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      1. cliquetalk says:

        Oh Bella.. Have so missed you
        Thanks for being a snooper alongside moi…we are the real MVPs❤❤

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        1. Bella says:

          Baby girl! I have missed you too! The mind is indeed strong, I have been thinking about you lately, wondering why you silent for so long. Good to have you back 😘 Indeed, we are the real MVPs lol!

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    9. Austine Cj says:

      It can be beneficial, so you know if you are dealing with a ghost or human being. It helps you knw a lot about the person you are dealing with. But thou shall not be caught, In case you don’t find any negative thing. On my own side, the only person I can catch snooping on my phone and not take it serious is my partner. My partner should be the only rightful person accessing my phone without permission. When you snoop and it is said u don’t trust. Then you shouldn’t even trust someone hiding something from u. I cannot come and be guarding my phone like guardian angel.

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      1. cliquetalk says:

        You deserve some accolades ..
        It’s people like you we use to like🙌🙌

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    10. Debs says:

      Snooping has ruined my previous relationships and it has almost ruined this. But I told myself, I am done snooping. If we cannot trust ourselves without snooping, so be it. Until proven otherwise, no more snooping.

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      1. cliquetalk says:

        I seriously don’t Know how to trust a man without snooping first. I envy your strength.

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    11. Angel says:

      Lol..this lady.I love how you always put humour no matter how serious the topic is.anyways on snooping, one of my ex told me not to go through his phone or else I would get hurt. I didn’t listen and I went through it regardless. It was heartbreaking and yes it result in a break up. Phew …I just feel like if you are ready to start snooping,you should also be ready for a breakup or divorce cos more often than not, we find that thing we are looking for.

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      1. cliquetalk says:

        Dear dear.. You ex is really mean
        I hope he makes heaven..
        Yeah snooping is risky. The consequences hurt more..
        Thanks for sharing ❤

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        1. Angel says:

          Lol.. If he likes she shouldn’t make heaven. Its not mine to worry about.

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    12. Darsy says:

      Well I don’t snoop cos I can’t kill myself by myself…don’t want a heart attack at this age biko…if he’s doing anything…d truth will come out one day..will chill till then jare..no time.

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      1. cliquetalk says:

        My dear, you chilling till the next century when the truth will come out sounds like you have all the time in the world
        So y say no time?

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    13. 😂 snooping is not going to take me to hell I know, but I don’t have the mind. Did you consider yourself finding out truths that you should have avoided, and the way pet names no longer mean anything these days can give a non hypertensive snooper hypertension…

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      1. cliquetalk says:

        Because of fear of the unknown, I never forget to wear my shock absorber before snooping. So the shock doesn’t directly hit on me. I rather kill myself than commit suicide (in patience Jonathan’s voice)😂

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